Latinx Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Others might look at you and think you’ve got it all together.

You’re smart, and you’ve figured out how to achieve a lot of your goals, milestones you didn’t think were actually possible growing up with your first-gen familia. But no one suspects how hard it is to maintain the facade, to keep smiling and pretending that you’re ok. They don’t know how the racing thoughts and worry are wrecking your sleep. They can’t see how sad you’ve been and how disconnected you are from your life. You’ve prioritized being responsible and getting ahead from a young age, and now that you’ve ticked off the boxes, it’s shocking how acutely unhappy this has made you. 

Deep down, you're aware that you're not honoring what you need and what you want, but asking for yourself feels selfish after a lifetime of being told that others come first. You’re struggling with self-doubt more than usual, leading you to wonder if you ever belonged. You love your roots and familia, but being a millennial Latina within the predominant culture has made it difficult for you to figure out how to be included and accepted as you.

You don’t really have anyone to talk to about the overwhelm, sadness, and confusion you’re feeling. Tu mami will call and ask “Mi amor como estas?”, but she doesn’t wait for your reply. Instead, she launches into the family drama and peppers in complaints about your lack as a daughter. It’s depressing to know she probably wouldn’t listen to you if you were finally honest and let her know how you’re actually doing.